This conversation happened a few months ago but the topic keeps popping back up in my life so I thought I'd finally "free" this blog from my "drafts" folder. The conversation was about vulnerability in terms of love and my friend saying how they don't like to experience such a feeling. They were saying how they didn't like the feeling of being vulnerable with someone because you're basically giving them the power to hurt you. For me, maybe it's a mix of the hopeless romantic and the idealist in me that believes otherwise, but I definitely view it very differently. I believe it's essential to be vulnerable & allow yourself to fully BE yourself with the person closest to you, whether it's a best friend or partner (a partner in this case), because if you can't let your guard down with that person, then with WHOM can you? If I can't be my authentic self to someone I claim to love & the love is mutual then how could I ever TRULY be at peace with them? Vulnerability is TERRIFYING & a means of exposing yourself to potential heartache but that's what love is; it's letting someone else hold your heart & trusting that they will be the one to handle it with care. I admittedly struggle with expressing myself but it's not fully out of fear of vulnerability but more me about trying to unscramble my thoughts so that I can verbalize exactly how I'm feeling. I've gotten better about speaking up, although it's often misinterpreted, I keep pushing through because I'm not going to hide inside my inner world anymore & it's okay to let your guard down, sometimes. To me, with vulnerability comes growth and it's how you get to the "broken" and "missing" pieces of a person. You both take your broken pieces and you learn to love those "hidden" gems together and you heal with each other because vulnerability in love is power, not a weakness.
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King Of Darkness
3/25/2018 05:08:27 am
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